:: it's another goodbye

[geishadeconstruct]

So I wasn't really going to air this right away or anything but I also wasn't expecting a fucking email from the administration of Mimi's school misgendering me again even though we've been dealing with these guys for four fucking years already and they know that I'm not her father.

Of all the reasons I'm a terrible parent, my gender does not even enter into the equation. Not on the fucking list.

Comments

[hakuchou]

Uggggh... that's horrible :< I'm so sorry.

Why can't people just do what the person said is polite and right for them? Why does it have to be such a big deal? It's not a bother to the school either way, right, so, use what the person wants....

[geishadeconstruct]

I think they just can't wrap their heads around the fact that I'm not a girl or a guy. I must be one or the other, right? And if I still use he/him pronouns, I must be a guy, right?

If a nine-year-old gets it, you'd think a bunch of stuffy 50-year-olds would, wouldn't you? >:F

The killer is that the school's pretty open about shit like being gay and whatever. But they're one of the few in the area who are willing to deal with Mimi, so I'm stuck with them.

[hakuchou]

(I love that icon! ^^)

If a nine-year-old gets it, you'd think a bunch of stuffy 50-year-olds would, wouldn't you? >:F

Yeah... it's such irony... children don't put layers of social things on things. So, they just see what it is. Other people are spending too much time thinking about how it "should be", to look at how it is.

[geishadeconstruct]

I have it because it's pretty but it also reminds me of Mimi a little it. Which is awkward considering what most of Audrey Kawasaki's art is. Buuuuut I'm not going to think about that too hard.

Annnyway.

It probably helps that Mimi grew up with me, I guess. So she's used to it? She actually got in trouble once (once? hahaaa) in kindergarten for refusing to make a father's day card because she didn't have a father. They were angry with her for lying and whatever but it warmed the cockles of my black actually-rather-glittery heart. :3

[hakuchou]

That is so cute for her to do! ( ﾟ▽ﾟ) It sounds like she's so smart and sweet (and trouble... but... they all are, right? Or I hear so, anyway, from everyone who has them....)

[geishadeconstruct]

She's freakishly smart -- yeah, I know every parent says that about their kid and whatever but it's true. She'll sit around and watch me do work on the house and actually ask intelligent questions about all of it and that sort of stuff. Not to mention doing her homework like faster than I could. XD When I can get her to do her homework at all. -____-

But yeah, she's a fucking terror. And I mean, I know theoretically that there's probably more that Ela and I can do for her and she's probably freaking out because of the dynamics of our family anyway and blah blah blah, but goddamn sometimes I want to strangle her. (...I wouldn't really, I promise.) The reason we have her in this particular school right now is because they're the only ones with the resources to deal with kids like her. >__<

Haaaaa and then you got me rambling about my kid. 9__9 Sorryyy~

[hakuchou]

Nuuuu, it's okay. I hope I can be a parent some day, so, I like reading these stories, feels like I prepare a little for what to expect.

It sounds really tough but... also, I think it must be lovely to have someone so young be so curious and seeking knowledge and really trying to grow. That is beautiful anyway, so many people just don't care, it's good that you know you're helping that continuing to live in the world.

But, I also hear they can be nightmares. I was hoping that they grow out of it by 2 ^^; hehe ;)

[geishadeconstruct]

Hahaa, I didn't really get much choice in the matter, but idk I got used to it. ;P She's definitely one of my family though, smart and way too fucking curious for her own damn good, so it can get pretty bad sometimes. But we have help. Well, sort of. >__> She's pretty independent so we don't need someone watching her 24/7 which is good because she keeps attacking the caretakers. -___-;;

Oh honey, I never grew out of that! XDD I'm still giving my dad shit even now. (Hence why I say 'of all the reasons I'm a bad parent') I don't really see Mimi growing out of it either. *is a bad example*